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  • Éduquer sans punir : méthode Gordon
    • Répondre au besoin de l'enfant
    • Le "Je"
    • Ecoute active
    • Méthode sans perdant
  • Six Tactics to Keep Your Kids From Becoming Too Materialistic
    • Show Them You Can Have Fun on the Cheap
    • Make Gratitude a Habit : every night : 3 things that happened during the day that they were grateful for
    • Reward Kids With Special One-on-One Time
    • Be Careful With Your Own Materialistic Desires
    • Teach Kids to Pay It Forward : Doing something kind frees children from living a me-focused life by widening their circles of compassion
    • Spell Out Family Values
  • Teach Your Kids to Stop Interrupting You with This Technique :
    • Teach your child to place his or her hand on you when they want to speak to you while you’re talking to someone else
    • Put your hand on top of theirs to acknowledge they want your attention
    • Politely excuse yourself from the conversation
    • Thank your kid for waiting and give him or her your full attention
  • How I Learned to Stop Nagging My Kids and Start Motivating Them
  • How to help a kid who is shy :
    • ditch the label and replace by "she is feeling quite right now"
    • "He'll join us when he is be ready"
    • Prepare them for social events : explain what will happens, give them a limited number of choices

CommunicationModifier

  • 10 Things to Stop Saying to Your Kids (and What to Say Instead)
    • Good job : You really tried hard on that!
      • Emphasis about effort instead of results
    • Good boy : I appreciate it so much when you cooperate. I saw you share your toy with your friend
      • Emphasis about internal motivation instead of please you
    • What a beautiful picture! : I see red, blue and yellow! Can you tell me about your picture?
      • Allow them to evaluate their work instead of waiting a judgement
    • Stop it right now, or else! : It’s NOT OK to hit your brother. I’m worried that he will get hurt, or he’ll retaliate and hurt you. If you’d like something to hit, you may hit a pillow, the couch or the bed
      • Explain the impact, your fear and propose an alternative
    • If you _____ then I’ll give you _____ : Thank you so much for helping me clean up
    • You’re so smart! : Wow you really tried hard on that !
      • Emphasis about effort instead of results
    • Don’t cry : It’s OK to cry. Everyone needs to cry sometimes. I’ll be right here to listen to you. You’re really disappointed that we can’t go to the park right now, huh ?
      • causes kids to learn to stuff their emotions
    • I promise : I know you really want to have a play date with Sarah this weekend and we’ll do our best to make that happen. Please remember that sometimes unexpected things come up, so I can’t guarantee that it will happen this weekend
    • It’s no big deal! : I know you really wanted to do that, but it’s not going to work out for today,” or “I’m sorry you’re disappointed and the answer is no
      • Empathize with their feelings, even as you’re setting a boundary or saying no to their request
    • Why did you do that? : “Were you feeling frustrated because your friends weren’t listening to your idea?”
      • guess what your child might have been feeling and what her underlying needs might be
  • Six Communication Tricks That Will Get Your Kids to Cooperate :
    • Invite, Don’t Demand
    • Turn it Into a Game
    • Stop Repeating Yourself and Be Forgetful : “Wait, I forget, didn’t I just ask you to do something? What was that? I think we were getting ready to go somewhere, but can you please remind me where?”
    • Let Them Be In Charge
    • Cooperate With Them
  • When Kids Break Rules, Emphasize the Consequences for Others

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EmotionsModifier

  • How to Respond to Your Child's Emotional Meltdown and Help Them Grow
    • Be present: Remain in the room. Gently place your arm on their shoulder or hug them. Whatever they need. But be there. Don’t leave. You are their safety net.
    • Be flexible: Your child may resist your help, physically or verbally. That’s okay. When my son tells me to go away he doesn’t really mean it. In his case, he means “I need to see if you love me enough to stay.”
    • Be verbal: Give your child the words to name their feelings, while simultaneously acknowledging them: “I can see you are UPSET right now. You are ANGRY because I said you can’t have the sweets”; “You are SAD because our doggy as died. It HURTS inside and makes you want to cry”; “It’s FRUSTRATING when you can’t have the pen to draw on the wall, I can see that makes you MAD.”
    • Provide alternatives: Telling your child to stop physically is one thing, but they need to do something with that emotion. So provide alternative


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